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I have so many issues I really need to work on. Here is just one of them.
ISSUE #1
It all started 4 years ago. I got married and gained another son (my bonus child) that was 16 years old at the time (he plays every sport you can think of). Mealtime was/is such a major battle. When I cooked or even brought food home they would gobble it up before I or my son could eat. Sometimes, I would cook and make everyone’s plate and then eat my own (scraps). Most nights I had nothing to eat because of the pigs I live with. I have trained myself to eat my food as fast as I can. I now serve myself first and put it away so I can gobble it down later. I have 1 and 3 year old girls that eat like they are watching their tiny figures, AND a teenage boy who is 13 years old with a growing appetite. I find myself eating as fast as I can so I don’t have to share my food with them, I want to eat in peace, or either be finished with my meal/snack because it doesn’t take long for babies to finish.
My children love the special foods that I make for myself, so I have been cooking healthy for everyone. It seems like they don’t like their food that they have but just want to eat off of mommy’s plate. Even my teenager loves to snack off of Mommy’s plate. What do I do? Am I just being selfish? My husband is starting to mooch off of my plate all the time. It seems like I am not getting enough and this is when I start to eat the wrong foods around the house. Should I just prepare one large plate of food?
How can I slow myself down to take smaller bites and chew longer with little people around? They are like little birds…………..any suggestions? I went out to eat over the weekend and before I could catch myself I gobbled my food up before I even knew it. I was so embarrassed because my children were not around. My husband and my bonus child are living in me, I EAT LIKE A CAVEMAN, HELP!
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What an introspective post, Dionne...it's very interesting how you tied it back to how it developed, i.e. out of necessity! Recognizing your own habits is half the battle...figuring out how to correct it is a whole other animal. If it makes you feel any better, I tend to eat fast too. Sometimes I remember so I consciously try to eat slower & take sips of water in between bites, but honestly, most of the time I forget. Also interesting how you started making plenty of healthy stuff for everyone but they all still gravitate towards your plate. It sounds like less of a food issue than a boundary issue. Would it be possible to agree as a family to a rule that says you keep your hands to yourself at the dinner table? I know it's hard to teach kids new habits, but think about the kind of habit it could develop into if left unchecked. Do you really want the kids growing up thinking it's ok to snatch stuff off other people's plates at the table? It doesn't matter who it is. Manners still apply when you're dealing with Mommy, & when you can convince yourself that this is true, you'll be able to convince your kids of the same.
31 ene. 11 por el miembro: kstubblefield
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I agree with kstubblefield...there have to be some boundaries. I had the same prob with my older bros when I was little...if I didn't get in the kitchen and get my food quick, I would get nothing hence my issues with eating fast. But I have learned to stand up for myself and my food...lol. I don't have a problem sharing, I just need to be told in advance so I can make enough for everyone. I know you are dealing with children (and a husband...kind of the same thing...lol) so make sure and make plenty for everyone. But let them know that your plate is YOUR PLATE!! or perhaps put your plate up and eat after everyone else has already eaten. I know they don't realize they are starving you or forcing you to eat unhealthy...they are just used to sharing off your plate. No more nice mommy...time to lay down the rules. And the teenager knows better...no slack!!
On a side note...I'm happy to see you on here....HUGS!!!
01 feb. 11 por el miembro: smartin585
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Agreeing with boundaries. My 2 and 3 yr old will eat their food and still come to me asking for my food. I'm like...okay, I only have 1300 cals allotted right now and I need ALL my food! LOL I don't think it's selfish at all. You need to eat just like everyone else. So, I just tell them, you already ate. Let mommy eat her food. They may cry and whine, but it lasts for like two min and their attention goes to something else. Keep up the good work Dionne and make sure you're getting the nutrition you need, even if it's by force! Haha!
01 feb. 11 por el miembro: summer_rain529
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