I mentioned the boyfriends in a forum discussion and people seemed to be curious, so here's more about Hoser's Harem. (BTW, I use the term harem mostly as a way of giggling about the little ironies of my life. It's very much tongue-in-cheek.)
Yes, I have two boyfriends. Well, two or three depending upon how you slice it. One is more of a dear friend and lover than a romantic entanglement, but I guess that's splitting hairs. OK, I have three boyfriends. There are no girlfriends in the mix, but that's an accident of fate more than a deliberate choice. I've certainly had girlfriends in the past, including one M-F-F triad relationship.
Yes, they all know about each other. Two of the three know each other, but the third one lives on the east coast and hasn't had the opportunity to meet the other two. I'd be happier if they all knew each other (and even happier if they were all friends) but it is what it is. All of the relationships are stable, long-term ones-- a year, almost three years (but we've been friends for over a decade), and almost six years. They all make me happy, though each of them in very different ways. They are all uniquely fascinating people, though they're very different from each other.
How do I make it all work? Honest, straightforward communication. Lots of it.
I've been polyamorous for almost 20 years. It works for me, though it's obviously not for everyone. Sometimes it's challenging, but it's almost always tremendously rewarding.
And yes, I'm happy to answer reasonable questions if people are curious.
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Desayuno: cream, irish oatmeal, Sugar. Almuerzo: apple sauce, Hoser's split pea and pancetta soup. Cena: Mango Habanero Sausage, Hoser's miso tomato soup. Pasa Bocas / Otros: Topping for fruit crisp, peaches, chobani blueberry. más...
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Sounds like happy and healthy relationships between all of you. Since everyone knows about everyone else I don't see anything wrong with it. If there was sneaking around behind backs, I'd see wrongful doing as someone always seems to get hurt in situations like that. But since you're all open in the relationship. Only way I'd see anyone getting hurt is same way we are all hurt at one time or another. And that's if a person or persons decides its over. As we all know it does hurt to have that happen.
So with that I see nothing wrong since you seem happy and content in your harem ( makes me giggle saying it)
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: Pixiestyx
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Oh Hoser - you're such an interesting straightforward sort of a cat. I love people who have the courage of their convictions.
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: Z'sMama
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So do they have other girlfriends? How's that work?
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: k8yk
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And (seeing as how you put this out there) how do you find the time to keep all those balls in the air (pun intended) and find time for yourself as well?
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: Z'sMama
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Two of them have other partners. The third was just chatting with me last night about a woman who has been coming on to him, but he decided he wasn't interested. (And Kate, I won't chide you for the heterocentric assumption in that question. :-)
The time just sort of balances itself out with practice. It's hard to explain. Since one of them is 2500 miles away, scheduling becomes a lot easier.
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: Hoser
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:) Well do they have other boyfriends then? I'm definitely a "live and let live" type, but can't imagine sharing myself. I guess I'm possessive. I like my boyfriend MINE, MINE, MINE, lol. Luckily I found someone who is also very monogamous. The worst is when the two (or three or four or whatever) partners have different desires and aren't honest about them, which unfortunately seems pretty common- hence all the cheating and sneaking going on in the world.
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: k8yk
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A lot of the cheating and sneaking around comes from a society in which it's not OK to have other interests. The rule that I have with my partners is quite simple-- if there's someone else, we talk about it.
08 feb. 11 por el miembro: Hoser
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