Yesterday I walked and walked and stood and walked and stood and walked some more. Nothing to raise my heart rate, but enough to make my legs ache. I took one DIL and 4 grands to the city to go shopping for school clothes and supplies. We left about 9am and didn't get home until 7pm. The valves in the deep and superficial veins in my legs leak. This causes my legs to swell and to ache. My legs and feet used to swell when I was younger and thinner, but this is different. My legs feel like I'm walking around with leg weights. The doctors don't say weight loss will improve my condition, but I have to believe it should at least improve some of the symptoms. That's stress one...
Stress two...Granddaughter #1 did not graduate from high school last year when she should have - because she missed so many classes by oversleeping or not getting on the bus because her make-up wasn't done in time. For the past few years we've taken her school clothes shopping before the school year started. Last fall I told her that would be our last trip. She called yesterday (when she knew I'd be taking other grands shopping) to see if I would buy her clothes again this year. I told her I wasn't going to pay for her clothes, but when her Uncle and Aunt move out of my house I'll have a lot of work to do to put my house back in order and I'll pay her to help. I told her when she earned at least one hundred dollars I would drive her to the city to shop...she's not happy with me, and others wonder if we're not being supportive of her going back to school to get her diploma, but I feel she needs a reality check...if she doesn't get her act together she'll be working for low wages and new clothes won't just fall from the sky.
Stress three...DS#6 and DIL and 4 grands and large dog have been living with us since January 1st. They moved from Utah and in July finally sold their house there. They've put an offer on a house about an 50 minutes away from us, but they're still waiting for a closing date to be set. I'm not sure why these past few weeks have been so hard, but the boxes and the mess is really starting to get to me. I feel like I can't even move around my house, The laundry area is in one of the guestrooms. I thought it was a great idea to move it out of the basement and into a guestroom since I wasn't expecting long-term guests - not such a great idea after all. Combined with all the chaos is the realization that it is not easy for them either. So I stick a smile on my face and take a deep breath and try to make all of us as comfortable as I can. I know I'll miss them when they move, but it will be better for all of us.
Stress four...A month or so ago DIL#5 asked me to help her make a wedding cake for her brother's wedding on Saturday. She has NO CLUE how much work is involved. I tried to tell her, I told her it takes one day to bake the cake and another one to decorated it, but I guess she thought I was exaggerating. We set the date for Wednesday to bake the cakes and put crumb coats on the cakes then decorate them on Friday. She finally made it over at 4:30 on Wednesday to start making cakes, then told me she had to be to work at 7:30. Since I had told her I planned to be gone all day Thursday I just showed her how to make one 12-inch layer and how to use my big mixer for frosting and told her she could use my kitchen on Thursday to bake the rest of the cakes. When I got home last night she was still working on the cakes and is annoyed with me for not being around to help. The back story on this is that she has a heart of gold, she wants to give more than she can afford - monetarily and in her time (she seriously thought the ingredients would cost about $20!!). I've tried to be an example to her of setting boundaries and we've talked about this issue a number of times. She says she wants to stop dong things like this but... I let her know when she started this that it was a mistake...now if I step in and take over, I'm doing exactly what I tell her not to do...but if I don't someone's wedding cake doesn't get done. UGH!!
Stress five...DS#4 and 3 grands will be arriving this evening and plan to spend the weekend. His wife is going away and he wants something to do. I LOVE that my boys feel comfortable coming to visit whenever they want. We purchased this cabin in the woods as a "grandkid magnet" in hopes they would do just that. We have property with trails for go-carts, a trampoline, swimming pool, bikes, all sorts of things to do...I LOVE seeing my grandchildren...but right now I'm sooo tired. I think I'll buy hot dogs and let them cook them over a campfire outside...gets bodies out of the kitchen AND I won't have to cook dinner!
Stress six...Our house in town did not sell. The people who were renting decided to buy a newer house. I guess not everyone loves the charms of a 130 year-old home...even a grand one like ours. But that means we have to put it back up for sale. I need to find time - who knows where - to go over there and do some minor fix-ups. The gazebo needs to be restained and gardens need to be weeded. GoodMan says the basement floor should be repainted. We are really counting on the sale of that house to pay for the renovations we're making on our "lodge" here in the woods.
Stress seven...my niece Jillian's brain tumor...'nuff said
It has been good for me to write all this out. This is much cheaper than seeing a therapist! I've felt stressed, but my life is so good compared to so many! I'll keep working my program, keeping my head down and plodding along until some stresses are resolved and life brings along new ones.
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OVER LOAD God Bless your heart <3 Praying much for the Lord to bring you some rest & comfort <3
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: dreamcatcher10
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My thoughts on the granddaughter who did not graduate...
She had ONE priority job last year and that was to get to school and get her diploma. You laid it on the line, she did not comply, therefore she does not need to be rewarded with new clothes for repeating a grade.
Now if she was out due to illness or family calamity I am sure the situation would be different. Even so... the school systems usually allow for makeup work to be taken/sent home but, this situation is a direct result of her vanity (from what I read).
IMO you approached the situation proactively. If she does not like the options set before her then she needs to learn to make better choices. You are doing the right thing. Don't be stressed over that issue.
As for the rest... keep that chin up. You sound like you will endeavor to persevere.
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: hanqipanqi
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Enjoy them while you can, faults and all! Keep on holding them accountable, but we know grandparents still have to flex now and then because kids are not perfect (even though we obviously were). Otherwise, someday, it won't be so special to go visit Grandma, or they won't pass on the tradition to their kids. Bless your heart! Praying for you, and for Jillian.
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: DairyKing
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What can you do? Let them tell it, we're old fashion, and was born yesterday. Yes I hope she learns her reality check from her family now and not down the road when she is on her own trying to make it in this world. Probably check with your doctor again to see if you need special inserts in your shoes and compression nylons to help keep your legs from swelling.
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: toppy24564
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Thanks for your listening ears. Hanqipanqi ~ yes, it was vanity and a little bit of being in denial about consequences that kept granddaughter #1 from using good judgement in school last year. She is experiencing some logical consequences now, along with opportunities to achieve her goals if she chooses to put forth the effort. DairyKing ~ Thanks for your prayers on behalf of Jillian! She also is 30 weeks pregnant so we are also praying for her little boy. I think I have kept my frustration and discouragement pretty well hidden from all but GoodMan (poor man sometimes gets an ear full), so I hope no one will feel unwelcome. Last month we held "GrandCamps" for the grandchildren and they keep asking when we'll do it again, so I KNOW they still look forward to coming over. C67241 ~ I have a specialist I see for the venous insufficiency. I've had the vein ablation surgery and I do wear 40mmHg thigh high stockings. That seems to keep the cellulitis at bay, but my legs still ache. I just think losing this weight has got to help. And dreamcatcher ~ as always I thank you for your kind words and your prayers. I got your pm and I will keep you in my prayers too. I don't know how you handle driving a bus that's 102 degrees!! That's like a sweat box!
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: Hipaagrammy
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That is called tough love. Be firm now and save yourself some stress in the future!
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: BuffyBear
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Just an update ~ Legs are a little better today... Granddaughter #1 has stopped sulking for now, but reminds me her 18th birthday is coming up and she'd like a pick-up truck (not gonna happen)... Still no news on a closing date for DS#6's new house, but they expect it to be sometime next week... The wedding cake is finally done. I ended up frosting and decorating it today. DIL#5 didn't arrive until 5 pm so if I hadn't started it around noon it never would have been done. I began to feel that if I didn't do it it would have been just to prove a point and I can make those points some other way - without upsetting a wedding. DIL still acts a little irritated, but I'm writing that off to pre-wedding stress since she is doing most of the work of her brother's wedding. I also think I have learned to say a more definite "NO" to doing this in the future. People can't be held responsible for crossing a boundary if I never set one...DS#4 has decided to stay home this weekend for his own reasons. It is a sigh of relief for me right now, but I hope to see them soon...I will use the extra time I have since I won't be hosting DS#4's family to go and work on the other house. We have a showing tomorrow morning. I'll spiff it up a little before they get there and then I have to deliver the wedding cake at 1:30 pm...I hope everyone has a great weekend!
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: Hipaagrammy
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Phew...I am exhausting reading all the things you are juggling. Your perspective on it all is perfect.
22 ago. 14 por el miembro: yduj57
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