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I broke up with my longtime boyfriend, just a few days ago. It was a really painful situation where he decided he preferred to be with someone else and not with me. The way it ended was very rough and very abrupt. It all happened within a few hours. I obviously love him greatly, but yet know I simply cannot be anywhere near him... I wish he would have chosen to be with me... So I simply MUST keep my distance, a great distance... And this is where it gets tough... How am i supposed to get over this highly painful situation AND go on with my life AND maintain my diet AND focus on my goals?
It's just so much... And i m always thinking about him, all day long, i'm in pain, great pain. GREAT PAIN. I don't want to text him, i don't want to show up to his doorstep crying... Obviously all I want is for him to come back and just be with me but this aint happening.
I just want to get over this, put it behind me, forget about it....
But how? I haven't sed a tear those few days, but the reality is really starting to sink in... Please help.
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Hugs. I wish there was some secret or suggestion I could give you to get through this quickly, but I don't have any. Try to channel these feelings and emotions into things you enjoy.....hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc. Stay as busy as possible.
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: Arabella66
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i m trying... but i m obsessing.... and starting to feel so down..... oh God what am i going to do?
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: catherineeleanor
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Love is a choice not a feeling, lust is the feeling. I hurts like hell when a relationship ends. You will never stop having feelings for him, you will just figure out how not to hurt. If he would have done this after kids then it would have been twice as hard. Life sucks at times, it is how we deal with it that defines whom we are.
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: brucemcguigan
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You need to look up and read about the stages of grief that people go through when they suffer a tragic loss, you suffered a loss, you will go through the stages.
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: brucemcguigan
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Hugs. I was I could tell you that getting over this was going to be easy or even quick, but I just can't. Allow yourself to feel the pain and the hurt but stay busy and be good to yourself. If you have a good friend or two, let them help/listen even if you think you want to be alone. We're here for you. Bruce and Arabella are both right.
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: PhillySue
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thanks you guys... it's just this... it has just started to sink in, i have just begun to realise what has happened... that i am no longer with him... and this is so so so frustrating and painful. When you love someone you can't just forget and move on... it aches... my heart hurts.... it's like, love no longer exists.... God I m so in love with him....
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: catherineeleanor
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You deserve better and taking it out on your body will only hurt yourself. Go to a spa, or something else to treat and pamper yourself instead of food. I feel your pain. my ex keeps texting me, even though I've asked him multiple times to stop. But I know it wasn't a healthy relationship and I choose me!
16 dic. 16 por el miembro: Yourpissingmeoff
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Dear, yes...it's going to hurt and your heart is aching and it won't be easy to get through this and NO you just can't forget and move on, but you do need to move on. I've cried many tears and have had loads of heartbreak in my own life. There is no way to get around experiencing or feeling the hurt and pain. This is all fresh, so everything is super intense at this point. This didn't work and this isn't meant to be for a reason. Maybe God has something better for you in the near future? The fact that he is already moving on with someone indicates he doesn't sound like someone who is worth your tears or love. Love does exists, but it just isn't going to happen with this guy. You can love someone, but the compatibility may not be there to sustain the relationship. Keep busy, keep busy and keep busy.
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Arabella66
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This is a perfect time to explore yoga if you don't already. Where do you like? I can help you find a yoga therapist if you'd like❤️
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Sparrowsquirrel
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thats exactly it tho.. you use your focus on your goals to get through it! Keep busy, focus on you!
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: TheLovelyMrsG
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Sounds like you are experiencing extreme anxiety. Contact your physician and request a short term anti-anxiety medication like clonopin .5 mg. It will help settle your nerves and allow you to think straight and get back on track. Anxiety over love lost can cause people to over-react (i.e. 48 Hours episode). Good luck.
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: dshatz98
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Remember you-put on your favorite music and look inwards for peace and stillness. I have experienced many difficult and stressful times and have had trouble with adjusting. I think centering myself and being mindful maybe a helpful path. Best wishes.
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Lunaray
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Aww, Sweet friend. The pain is real but it will fade. Right now isn't the time to add diet rules to your anxiety. Talk and cry all of your feelings out with someone you can trust and know that this relationship is not what gives you worth. It is a loss. Give yourself time and permission to work through it all. Above all, know that you are beautiful, unique and wonderful. The right person will come along and see those qualities. Blessings.
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Sherillynn
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Screaming works too! I have an old friend who lays on her bed, everyday, screaming into a pillow and kicking the bed like a bratty kid. She does it for 5 minutes everyday and she's in her 70's. She said it really helps her de-stress. I scream my head off when my tattoo artist is working on me for a long time and it makes us both laugh!
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Yourpissingmeoff
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I'm a pragmatist so it seems you have choices - you can sink into a depression and eat yourself into a loveless broken existence F-O-R-E-V-E-R or you can work out and diet responsibly and loose the weight.
Do the fist and he will forget all about you, do the second and he will wonder what he did wrong to make such a beautiful girl gain so much weight - that's the thing with life, you're in charge. One thing I can promise is that with a face like yours if you do hit your goal and no matter how he feels about you, you'll be fighting off the guys at the gym.
This diet thing is not that hard, set a reasonable low and high calorie limit that curbs the hunger but allows for weight loss, work out 4-5 days a week, and stay consistent - do that till you die.
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: tjbradders
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My biggest thing is that you have to lose weight for YOU! No one else but You. Whenever you feel like you want to eat yourself into a mess then go do something productive. Even if it's washing the dishes or doing laundry or window shopping you are moving. Not eating not watching tv. You've got this and this program has many people who seem to be supportive. 😁
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: MissK2016
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I am sure she can draw the men now. Who cares about what he will do or what he will think at this point or drawing the guys at the gym? That's the problem. The focus should be taken off this guy. This is about her taking care of herself not to draw a man or keep a man but because she should be the MAIN focus. Catherine.....You can't let what's going on out of your control in you life dictate whether you take care of yourself or not. You were doing ok before you met him....right? If so, you will do ok without him. Trust me dear. This will pass over time. Just resist the maladaptive route.....you know what I am talking about. Get busy as a bee. HUGS!
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Arabella66
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Living well is the best revenge. Live for you.work on you. No one needs anyone if you are not the one they prefer, that cheats you and not worth it.
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: Marymaryquitecon
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Been there done that. FOCUS on you and how you can make yourself better for YOU. Take long walks, meditate, find a way to release your anger. If you try to eat yourself happy - you will never be happy and the only one who will lose is you! Hugs and prayers to you!
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: PGM012197
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It's Okay to feel sad. You have been rejected and that just feels the worst. But all that's been said above it true. Find some things that you can devote some meaningful energy and time to. Use your depth of feeling to explore, give, volunteer, create, move and build. I also recommend yoga and any other activity that gets you into a flow state: art? dancing? friends? walking in the forest? Take care: life is rich. And apparently he didn't appreciate you enough - and you don't deserve to get stuck with that!
17 dic. 16 por el miembro: erikahollister
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